| 1 | | eti0001 CHAPTER THIRTY FIVE OF ETIQUETTE THIS IS A LIBRIVOX RECORDING ALL LIBRIVOX RECORDINGS ARE IN THE PUBLIC DOMAIN |
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| 2 | | eti0002 FOR MORE INFORMATION OR TO VOLUNTEER PLEASE VISIT LIBRIVOX DOT ORG RECORDED BY LAURY ANNE WALDEN |
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| 3 | | eti0003 ETIQUETTE IN SOCIETY IN BUSINESS IN POLITICS AND AT HOME BY EMILY POST CHAPTER THIRTY FIVE |
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| 4 | | eti0004 THE KINDERGARTEN OF ETIQUETTE IN THE HOUSES OF THE WELL TO DO |
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| 5 | | eti0005 WHERE THE NURSERY IS IN CHARGE OF A WOMAN OF REFINEMENT |
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| 6 | | eti0006 WHO IS COMPETENT TO TEACH LITTLE CHILDREN PROPER BEHAVIOR |
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| 7 | | eti0007 THEY ARE NEVER ALLOWED TO COME TO TABLE IN THE DINING ROOM UNTIL THEY HAVE LEARNED AT LEAST THE ELEMENTS OF GOOD MANNERS |
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| 8 | | eti0008 BUT WHETHER IN A BIG HOUSE OF THIS DESCRIPTION |
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| 9 | | eti0009 OR IN A SMALL HOUSE WHERE PERHAPS THE MOTHER ALONE MUST BE THE TEACHER |
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| 10 | | eti0010 CHILDREN CAN SCARCELY BE TOO YOUNG TO BE TAUGHT THE RUDIMENTS OF ETIQUETTE |
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| 11 | | eti0011 NOR CAN THE TEACHING BE TOO PATIENTLY OR TOO CONSCIENTIOUSLY CARRIED OUT |
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| 12 | | eti0012 TRAINING A CHILD IS EXACTLY LIKE TRAINING A PUPPY A LITTLE HEEDLESS INATTENTION AND IT IS OUT IF HAND IMMEDIATELY |
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| 13 | | eti0013 THE GREAT THING IS NOT TO LET IT ACQUIRE BAD HABITS THAT MUST AFTERWARD BE BROKEN |
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| 14 | | eti0014 ANY CHILD CAN BE TAUGHT TO BE BEAUTIFULLY BEHAVED WITH NO EFFORT GREATER THAN QUIET PATIENCE AND PERSEVERANCE |
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| 15 | | eti0015 WHEREAS TO BREAK BAD HABITS ONCE THEY ARE ACQUIRED IS A HERCULEAN TASK ELEMENTARY TABLE MANNERS |
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| 16 | | eti0016 SINCE A VERY LITTLE CHILD CAN NOT HOLD A SPOON PROPERLY |
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| 17 | | eti0017 AND AS NEATNESS IS THE FIRST REQUISITE IN TABLE MANNERS |
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| 18 | | eti0018 IT SHOULD BE ALLOWED TO HOLD ITS SPOON AS IT MIGHT TAKE HOLD OF A BAR IN FRONT OF IT |
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| 19 | | eti0019 BACK OF THE HAND UP THUMB CLOSED OVER FIST THE PUSHER |
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| 20 | | eti0020 A SMALL FLAT PIECE OF SILVER AT RIGHT ANGLES TO A HANDLE |
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| 21 | | eti0021 IS HELD IN THE SAME WAY IN THE LEFT HAND ALSO IN THE FIRST EATING LESSONS |
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| 22 | | eti0022 A BABY MUST BE ALLOWED TO PUT A SPOON IN ITS MOUTH POINTED END FOREMOST |
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| 23 | | eti0023 ITS FIRST LESSONS MUST BE TO TAKE SMALL MOUTHFULS TO EAT VERY SLOWLY TO SPILL NOTHING |
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| 24 | | eti0024 TO KEEP THE MOUTH SHUT WHILE CHEWING AND NOT SMEAR ITS FACE OVER |
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| 25 | | eti0025 IN DRINKING A CHILD SHOULD USE BOTH HANDS TO HOLD A MUG OR GLASS |
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| 26 | | eti0026 UNTIL ITS HAND IS BIG ENOUGH SO IT CAN EASILY HOLD A GLASS IN ONE |
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| 27 | | eti0027 WHEN IT CAN EAT WITHOUT SPILLING ANYTHING OR SMEARING ITS LIPS |
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| 28 | | eti0028 AND DRINK WITHOUT MAKING GREASE MOONS ON ITS MUG OR TUMBLER BY ALWAYS WIPING ITS MOUTH BEFORE DRINKING |
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| 29 | | eti0029 IT MAY BE ALLOWED TO COME TO TABLE IN THE DINING ROOM AS A TREAT |
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| 30 | | eti0030 FOR SUNDAY LUNCH OR BREAKFAST OR IF IT HAS BEEN TAUGHT BY ITS MOTHER AT TABLE |
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| 31 | | eti0031 SHE CAN RELAX HER ATTENTION SOMEWHAT FROM ITS PROGRESS GIRLS ARE USUALLY DAINTIER AND MORE EASILY TAUGHT THAN BOYS |
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| 32 | | eti0032 BUT MOST CHILDREN WILL BEHAVE BADLY AT TABLE IF LEFT TO THEIR OWN DEVICES |
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| 33 | | eti0033 EVEN THOUGH THEY MAY COMMIT NO SERIOUS OFFENSES SUCH AS MAKING A MESS OF THEIR FOOD OR THEMSELVES |
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| 34 | | eti0034 OR TALKING WITH THEIR MOUTHS FULL ALL CHILDREN LOVE TO CRUMB BREAD |
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| 35 | | eti0035 FLOP THIS WAY AND THAT IN THEIR CHAIRS KNOCK SPOONS AND FORKS TOGETHER |
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| 36 | | eti0036 DAWDLE OVER THEIR FOOD FEED ANIMALS IF ANY ARE ALLOWED IN THE ROOM |
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| 37 | | eti0037 OR BECOME RESTLESS AND NOISY ONCE GRADUATED TO THE DINING ROOM |
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| 38 | | eti0038 ANY REVERSION TO SUCH TACTICS MUST BE FIRMLY REPREHENDED |
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| 39 | | eti0039 AND THE CHILD SHOULD UNDERSTAND THAT CONTINUED OFFENSE MEANS A RETURN TO THE NURSERY |
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| 40 | | eti0040 BUT BEFORE COMPANY IT IS BEST TO SAY AS LITTLE AS POSSIBLE |
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| 41 | | eti0041 SINCE TOO MUCH NAGGING IN THE PRESENCE OF STRANGERS LESSENS A CHILD'S INCENTIVE TO GOOD BEHAVIOR BEFORE THEM |
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| 42 | | eti0042 IF IT REFUSES TO BEHAVE NICELY MUCH THE BEST THING TO DO IS TO SAY NOTHING |
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| 43 | | eti0043 BUT GET UP AND QUIETLY LEAD IT FROM THE TABLE BACK TO THE NURSERY |
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| 44 | | eti0044 IT IS NOT ONLY BAD FOR THE CHILD BUT ANNOYING TO A GUEST |
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| 45 | | eti0045 TO CONTINUE INSTRUCTIONS BEFORE COMPANY |
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| 46 | | eti0046 AND THE CHILD LEARNS MUCH MORE QUICKLY TO BE WELL BEHAVED IF IT UNDERSTANDS THAT GOOD BEHAVIOR IS THE PRICE OF ADMISSION TO GROWN UP SOCIETY |
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| 47 | | eti0047 A WORD OR TWO SUCH AS DON'T LEAN ON THE TABLE DARLING OR |
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| 48 | | eti0048 PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT YOU ARE DOING DEAR SHOULD SUFFICE BUT A CHILD THAT IS NOISY |
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| 49 | | eti0049 THAT REACHES OUT TO HELP ITSELF TO CANDY OR CAKE THAT INTERRUPTS THE CONVERSATION |
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| 50 | | eti0050 THAT EATS UNTIDILY HAS BEEN ALLOWED TO LEAVE THE NURSERY BEFORE IT HAS BEEN PROPERLY GRADUATED |
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| 51 | | eti0051 TABLE MANNERS MUST OF COURSE PROCEED SLOWLY IN EXACTLY THE SAME WAY THAT ANY OTHER LESSONS PROCEED IN SCHOOL |
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| 52 | | eti0052 HAVING LEARNED WHEN A BABY TO USE THE NURSERY IMPLEMENTS OF SPOON AND PUSHER |
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| 53 | | eti0053 THE CHILD WHEN IT IS A LITTLE OLDER DISCARDS THEM FOR THE FORK SPOON |
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| 54 | | eti0054 AND KNIFE THE PROPER USE OF THE FORK AS SOON THEREFORE AS HIS HAND IS DEXTEROUS ENOUGH |
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| 55 | | eti0055 THE CHILD MUST BE TAUGHT TO HOLD HIS FORK NO LONGER GRIPPED BABY FASHION IN HIS FIST |
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| 56 | | eti0056 BUT MUCH AS A PENCIL IS HELD IN WRITING ONLY THE FINGERS ARE PLACED NEARER THE TOP |
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| 57 | | eti0057 THAN THE POINT THE THUMB AND TWO FIRST FINGERS ARE CLOSED AROUND THE HANDLE TWO THIRDS OF THE WAY UP THE SHANK |
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| 58 | | eti0058 AND THE FOOD IS TAKEN UP SHOVEL WISE ON THE TURNED UP PRONGS |
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| 59 | | eti0059 AT FIRST HIS LITTLE FINGERS WILL HOLD HIS FORK STIFFLY |
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| 60 | | eti0060 BUT AS HE GROWS OLDER HIS FINGERS WILL BECOME MORE FLEXIBLE |
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| 61 | | eti0061 JUST AS THEY WILL IN HOLDING HIS PENCIL IF HE FINDS IT HARD WORK TO SHOVEL HIS FOOD |
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| 62 | | eti0062 HE CAN FOR A WHILE CONTINUE TO USE HIS NURSERY PUSHER |
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| 63 | | eti0063 BY AND BY THE PUSHER IS CHANGED FOR A SMALL PIECE OF BREAD |
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| 64 | | eti0064 WHICH IS HELD IN HIS LEFT HAND AND BETWEEN THUMB AND FIRST TWO FINGERS |
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| 65 | | eti0065 AND AGAINST WHICH THE FORK SHOVELS UP SUCH ELUSIVE ARTICLES AS CORN PEAS POACHED EGG |
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| 66 | | eti0066 ETC THE SPOON IN USING THE SPOON HE HOLDS IT IN HIS RIGHT HAND LIKE THE FORK |
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| 67 | | eti0067 IN EATING CEREAL OR DESSERT HE MAY BE ALLOWED TO DIP THE BOWL OF THE SPOON TOWARD HIM AND EAT FROM THE END |
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| 68 | | eti0068 BUT IN EATING SOUP HE MUST DIP HIS SPOON AWAY FROM HIM |
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| 69 | | eti0069 TURNING THE OUTER RIM OF THE BOWL DOWN AS HE DOES SO |
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| 70 | | eti0070 FILL THE BOWL NOT MORE THAN THREE QUARTERS FULL AND SIP IT WITHOUT NOISE |
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| 71 | | eti0071 OUT OF THE SIDE NOT THE END OF THE BOWL |
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| 72 | | eti0072 THE REASON WHY THE BOWL MUST NOT BE FILLED FULL IS BECAUSE IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO LIFT A BRIMMING SPOONFUL OF LIQUID TO HIS MOUTH |
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| 73 | | eti0073 WITHOUT SPILLING SOME OR IN THE CASE OF PORRIDGE WITHOUT FILLING HIS MOUTH TOO FULL |
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| 74 | | eti0074 WHILE STILL VERY YOUNG HE MAY BE TAUGHT NEVER TO LEAVE THE SPOON IN A CUP |
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| 75 | | eti0075 WHILE DRINKING OUT OF IT BUT AFTER STIRRING THE COCOA OR WHATEVER IT IS |
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| 76 | | eti0076 TO LAY THE SPOON IN THE SAUCER A VERY UGLY TABLE HABIT |
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| 77 | | eti0077 WHICH SEEMS TO BE AN IMPULSE AMONG ALL CHILDREN IS TO PILE A GREAT QUANTITY OF FOOD ON A FORK |
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| 78 | | eti0078 AND THEN LICK OR BITE IT OFF PIECEMEAL THIS MUST ON NO ACCOUNT BE PERMITTED |
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| 79 | | eti0079 IT IS PERFECTLY CORRECT HOWEVER TO SIP A LITTLE AT A TIME OF HOT LIQUID FROM A SPOON |
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| 80 | | eti0080 IN TAKING ANY LIQUID EITHER FROM A SPOON OR DRINKING VESSEL NO NOISE MUST EVER BE MADE |
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| 81 | | eti0081 THE FORK AND KNIFE TOGETHER IN BEING TAUGHT TO USE HIS KNIFE |
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| 82 | | eti0082 THE CHILD SHOULD AT FIRST CUT ONLY SOMETHING VERY EASY SUCH AS A SLICE OF CHICKEN |
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| 83 | | eti0083 HE SHOULD NOT ATTEMPT ANYTHING WITH BONES OR GRISTLE OR ANYTHING THAT IS TOUGH |
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| 84 | | eti0084 IN HIS LEFT HAND IS PUT HIS FORK WITH THE PRONGS DOWNWARD |
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| 85 | | eti0085 HELD NEAR THE TOP OF THE HANDLE HIS INDEX FINGER IS PLACED ON THE SHANK SO THAT IT POINTS TO THE PRONGS |
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| 86 | | eti0086 AND IS SUPPORTED AT THE SIDE BY HIS THUMB HIS OTHER FINGERS CLOSE UNDERNEATH |
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| 87 | | eti0087 AND HOLD THE HANDLE TIGHT HE MUST NEVER BE ALLOWED TO HOLD HIS FORK EMIGRANT FASHION |
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| 88 | | eti0088 PERPENDICULARLY CLUTCHED IN THE CLENCHED FIST AND TO SAW ACROSS THE FOOD AT ITS BASE WITH HIS KNIFE |
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| 89 | | eti0089 THE KNIFE THE KNIFE IS HELD IN HIS RIGHT HAND EXACTLY AS THE FORK IS HELD IN HIS LEFT |
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| 90 | | eti0090 FIRMLY AND AT THE END OF THE HANDLE WITH THE INDEX FINGER POINTING DOWN THE BACK OF THE BLADE |
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| 91 | | eti0091 IN CUTTING HE SHOULD LEARN NOT TO SCRAPE THE BACK OF THE FORK PRONGS WITH THE CUTTING EDGE OF THE KNIFE |
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| 92 | | eti0092 HAVING CUT OFF A MOUTHFUL HE THRUSTS THE FORK THROUGH IT WITH PRONGS POINTED DOWNWARD |
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| 93 | | eti0093 AND CONVEYS IT TO HIS MOUTH WITH HIS LEFT HAND |
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| 94 | | eti0094 HE MUST LEARN TO CUT OFF AND EAT ONE MOUTHFUL AT A TIME |
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| 95 | | eti0095 IT IS UNNECESSARY TO ADD THAT THE KNIFE MUST NEVER BE PUT IN HIS MOUTH |
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| 96 | | eti0096 NOR IS IT GOOD FORM TO USE THE KNIFE UNNECESSARILY SOFT FOODS LIKE CROQUETTES |
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| 97 | | eti0097 HASH ON TOAST ALL EGGS AND VEGETABLES SHOULD BE CUT |
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| 98 | | eti0098 OR MERELY BROKEN APART WITH THE EDGE OF THE FORK HELD LIKE THE KNIFE |
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| 99 | | eti0099 AFTER WHICH THE FORK IS TURNED IN THE HAND TO FIRST OR SHOVEL POSITION |
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| 100 | | eti0100 THE KNIFE MUST NEVER BE USED TO SCOOP BAKED POTATO OUT OF THE SKIN |
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| 101 | | eti0101 OR TO BUTTER POTATO A FORK MUST BE USED FOR ALL MANIPULATIONS OF VEGETABLES |
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| 102 | | eti0102 BUTTER FOR BAKED POTATOES TAKEN ON THE TIP OF THE FORK SHOVEL FASHION |
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| 103 | | eti0103 LAID ON THE POTATO AND THEN PRESSED DOWN AND MIXED WITH THE PRONGS HELD POINTS CURVED UP |
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| 104 | | eti0104 WHEN NO KNIFE IS BEING USED THE FORK IS HELD IN THE RIGHT HAND |
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| 105 | | eti0105 WHETHER USED PRONGS DOWN TO IMPALE THE MEAT OR PRONGS UP TO LIFT VEGETABLES |
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| 106 | | eti0106 TO PILE MASHED POTATO AND OTHER VEGETABLES ON THE CONVEX SIDE OF THE FORK |
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| 107 | | eti0107 ON TOP OF THE MEAT FOR TWO OR MORE INCHES OF ITS LENGTH |
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| 108 | | eti0108 IS A DISGUSTING HABIT DEAR TO SCHOOL BOYS AND ONE THAT IS MORE EASILY PREVENTED THAN CORRECTED |
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| 109 | | eti0109 IN FACT TAKING A BIG MOUTHFUL NEXT TO SMEARING HIS FACE AND CHEWING WITH MOUTH OPEN |
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| 110 | | eti0110 IS THE WORST OFFENSE AT TABLE WHEN HE HAS FINISHED EATING |
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| 111 | | eti0111 HE SHOULD LAY HIS KNIFE AND FORK CLOSE TOGETHER SIDE BY SIDE |
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| 112 | | eti0112 WITH HANDLES TOWARD THE RIGHT SIDE OF HIS PLATE |
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| 113 | | eti0113 THE HANDLES PROJECTING AN INCH OR TWO BEYOND THE RIM OF THE PLATE |
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| 114 | | eti0114 THEY MUST BE PLACED FAR ENOUGH ON THE PLATE SO THAT THERE IS NO DANGER OF THEIR OVER BALANCING ON TO THE TABLE OR FLOOR |
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| 115 | | eti0115 WHEN REMOVED AT THE END OF THE COURSE OTHER TABLE MATTERS |
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| 116 | | eti0116 THE DISTANCE FROM THE TABLE AT WHICH IT IS BEST TO SIT |
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| 117 | | eti0117 IS A MATTER OF PERSONAL COMFORT |
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| 118 | | eti0118 A CHILD SHOULD NOT BE ALLOWED TO BE SO CLOSE THAT HIS ELBOWS ARE BENT LIKE A GRASSHOPPER'S |
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| 119 | | eti0119 NOR SO FAR BACK THAT FOOD IS APT TO BE SPILLED IN TRANSIT FROM PLATE TO MOUTH |
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| 120 | | eti0120 CHILDREN LIKE TO DRINK VERY LONG AND RAPIDLY ALL IN ONE BREATH |
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| 121 | | eti0121 UNTIL THEY ARE PINK AROUND THE EYES AND ARE LITERALLY GASPING |
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| 122 | | eti0122 THEY ALSO LOVE TO PUT THEIR WHOLE HANDS IN THEIR FINGER BOWLS AND WIGGLE THEIR FINGERS |
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| 123 | | eti0123 A BABY OF TWO OR AT LEAST BY THE TIME HE IS THREE |
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| 124 | | eti0124 SHOULD BE TAUGHT TO DIP THE TIPS OF HIS FINGERS IN THE FINGER BOWL |
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| 125 | | eti0125 WITHOUT PLAYING DRAW THE FINGERS OF THE RIGHT HAND ACROSS HIS MOUTH |
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| 126 | | eti0126 AND THEN WIPE HIS LIPS AND FINGERS ON THE APRON OF HIS BIB |
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| 127 | | eti0127 NO SMALL CHILD CAN BE EXPECTED TO USE A NAPKIN INSTEAD OF A BIB |
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| 128 | | eti0128 NO MATTER HOW NICELY BEHAVED HE MAY BE THERE IS ALWAYS DANGER OF HIS SPILLING SOMETHING SOME TIME |
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| 129 | | eti0129 SOFT BOILED EGG IS HIDEOUSLY DIFFICULT TO EAT WITHOUT EVER GETTING A DROP OF IT DOWN THE FRONT |
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| 130 | | eti0130 AND IT IS MUCH EASIER TO SUPPLY HIM WITH A CLEAN BIB FOR THE NEXT MEAL |
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| 131 | | eti0131 THAN TO CHANGE HIS DRESS FOR THE NEXT MOMENT VERY LITTLE CHILDREN USUALLY HAVE HOT WATER PLATES |
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| 132 | | eti0132 THAT ARE SPECIALLY MADE LIKE A DOUBLE PLATE WITH HOT WATER SPACE BETWEEN |
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| 133 | | eti0133 ON WHICH THE MEAT IS CUT UP AND THE VEGETABLES FIXED IN THE PANTRY |
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| 134 | | eti0134 AND BROUGHT TO THE CHILDREN BEFORE OTHER PEOPLE AT THE TABLE ARE SERVED |
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| 135 | | eti0135 NOT ONLY BECAUSE IT IS HARD FOR THEM TO BE MADE TO WAIT |
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| 136 | | eti0136 AND HAVE THEIR ATTENTION ATTRACTED BY FOOD NOT FOR THEM BUT BECAUSE THEY TAKE SO LONG TO EAT |
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| 137 | | eti0137 AS SOON AS THEY ARE OLD ENOUGH TO EAT EVERYTHING ON THE TABLE THEY ARE SERVED |
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| 138 | | eti0138 NOT LAST BUT IN THE REGULAR ROTATION AT TABLE IN WHICH THEY COME |
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| 139 | | eti0139 TABLE TRICKS THAT MUST BE CORRECTED TO SIT UP STRAIGHT AND KEEP THEIR HANDS IN THEIR LAPS WHEN NOT OCCUPIED WITH EATING |
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| 140 | | eti0140 IS VERY HARD FOR A CHILD BUT SHOULD BE INSISTED UPON IN ORDER TO PREVENT A CARELESS ATTITUDE |
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| 141 | | eti0141 THAT ALL TOO READILY DEGENERATES INTO FLOPPING THIS WAY AND THAT AND INTO FINGERING |
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| 142 | | eti0142 WHATEVER IS IN REACH HE MUST NOT BE ALLOWED TO WARM HIS HANDS ON HIS PLATE |
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| 143 | | eti0143 OR DRUM ON THE TABLE OR SCREW HIS NAPKIN INTO A ROPE OR MAKE MARKS ON THE TABLECLOTH |
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| 144 | | eti0144 IF HE SHOWS TALENT AS AN ARTIST GIVE HIM PENCILS OR MODELING WAX IN HIS PLAYROOM |
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| 145 | | eti0145 BUT DO NOT LET HIM BITE HIS SLICE OF BREAD INTO THE SILHOUETTE OF AN ANIMAL |
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| 146 | | eti0146 OR MODEL FIGURES IN SOFT BREAD AT THE TABLE |
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| 147 | | eti0147 AND DO NOT ALLOW HIM TO CONSTRUCT A TENT OUT OF TWO FORKS |
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| 148 | | eti0148 OR AN AUTOMOBILE CHASSIS OUT OF TUMBLERS AND KNIVES FOOD AND TABLE IMPLEMENTS ARE NOT PLAYTHINGS |
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| 149 | | eti0149 NOR IS THE DINING ROOM A PLAYGROUND TALKING AT TABLE WHEN OLDER PEOPLE ARE PRESENT AT TABLE |
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| 150 | | eti0150 AND A CHILD WANTS TO SAY SOMETHING HE MUST BE TAUGHT TO STOP EATING MOMENTARILY AND LOOK AT HIS MOTHER |
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| 151 | | eti0151 WHO AT THE FIRST PAUSE IN THE CONVERSATION WILL SAY WHAT IS IT DEAR |
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| 152 | | eti0152 AND THE CHILD THEN HAS HIS SAY IF HE WANTS MERELY TO LAUNCH FORTH ON A LONG SUBJECT OF HIS OWN CONVERSATION |
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| 153 | | eti0153 HIS MOTHER SAYS NOT NOW DARLING WE WILL TALK ABOUT THAT BY AND BY OR |
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| 154 | | eti0154 DON'T YOU SEE THAT MOTHER IS TALKING TO AUNT MARY WHEN CHILDREN ARE AT TABLE ALONE WITH THEIR MOTHER |
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| 155 | | eti0155 THEY SHOULD NOT ONLY BE ALLOWED TO TALK BUT UNCONSCIOUSLY TRAINED IN TABLE CONVERSATION |
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| 156 | | eti0156 AS WELL AS IN TABLE MANNERS CHILDREN ARE ALL MORE OR LESS LITTLE MONKEYS IN THAT THEY IMITATE EVERYTHING THEY SEE |
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| 157 | | eti0157 IF THEIR MOTHER TREATS THEM EXACTLY AS SHE DOES HER VISITORS THEY IN TURN PLAY VISITOR TO PERFECTION |
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| 158 | | eti0158 NOTHING HURTS THE FEELINGS OF CHILDREN MORE THAN NOT BEING ALLOWED TO BEHAVE LIKE GROWN PERSONS WHEN THEY THINK THEY ARE ABLE |
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| 159 | | eti0159 TO BE HELPED TO BE FED TO HAVE THEIR FOOD CUT UP |
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| 160 | | eti0160 ALL HAVE A STULTIFYING EFFECT UPON THEIR DEVELOPMENT AS SOON AS THEY HAVE BECOME EXPERT ENOUGH TO ATTEMPT THESE SERVICES FOR THEMSELVES |
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| 161 | | eti0161 CHILDREN SHOULD BE TAUGHT FROM THE TIME THEY ARE LITTLE NOT TO TALK ABOUT WHAT THEY LIKE AND DON'T LIKE |
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| 162 | | eti0162 A CHILD WHO IS NOT ALLOWED TO SAY ANYTHING BUT NO THANK YOU AT HOME |
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| 163 | | eti0163 WILL NOT MORTIFY HIS MOTHER IN PUBLIC BY SCREAMING I HATE STEAK I WON'T EAT POTATO |
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| 164 | | eti0164 I WANT ICE CREAM QUIETNESS AT TABLE |
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| 165 | | eti0165 OLDER CHILDREN SHOULD NOT BE ALLOWED TO JERK OUT THEIR CHAIRS TO FLOP DOWN SIDEWAYS TO FLICK THEIR NAPKINS BY ONE CORNER |
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| 166 | | eti0166 TO REACH OUT FOR SOMETHING OR BEGIN TO EAT NUTS FRUIT OR OTHER TABLE DECORATIONS |
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| 167 | | eti0167 A CHILD AS WELL AS A GROWN PERSON SHOULD SIT DOWN QUIETLY IN THE CENTER OF HIS CHAIR |
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| 168 | | eti0168 AND DRAW IT UP TO THE TABLE IF THERE IS NO ONE TO PUSH IT IN FOR HIM |
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| 169 | | eti0169 BY HOLDING THE SEAT IN EITHER HAND WHILE MOMENTARILY LIFTING HIMSELF ON HIS FEET |
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| 170 | | eti0170 HE MUST NOT JUMP OR ROCK HIS CHAIR INTO PLACE AT THE TABLE |
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| 171 | | eti0171 IN GETTING UP FROM THE TABLE AGAIN HE MUST PUSH HIS CHAIR BACK QUIETLY |
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| 172 | | eti0172 USING HIS HANDS ON EITHER SIDE OF THE CHAIR SEAT AND NOT BY HOLDING ON TO THE TABLE EDGE |
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| 173 | | eti0173 AND GIVING HIMSELF CHAIR AND ALL A SUDDEN SHOVE |
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| 174 | | eti0174 THERE SHOULD NEVER BE A SOUND MADE BY THE PUSHING IN OR OUT OF CHAIRS AT TABLE |
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| 175 | | eti0175 THE SPOILED CHILD THE BAD MANNERS OF AMERICAN CHILDREN WHICH UNFORTUNATELY ARE SUPPOSED BY FOREIGNERS TO BE TYPICAL |
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| 176 | | eti0176 ARE NEARLY ALWAYS THE RESULT OF THEIR BEING GIVEN STAR PARTS BY OVER FOND BUT EQUALLY OVER FOOLISH MOTHERS |
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| 177 | | eti0177 IT IS ONLY NECESSARY TO BRING TO MIND THE MOST IRRITATING AND OBJECTIONABLE CHILD ONE KNOWS |
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| 178 | | eti0178 AND THE CHANCES ARE THAT ITS MOTHER CONTINUALLY THROWS THE SPOTLIGHT ON IT |
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| 179 | | eti0179 BY TALKING TO IT AND ABOUT IT |
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| 180 | | eti0180 AND BY CALLING ATTENTION TO ITS LOOKS OR ITS CUNNING WAYS OR EVEN POSSIBLY ITS NAUGHTINESS |
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| 181 | | eti0181 IT IS HUMANLY NATURAL TO MAKE A FUSS OVER LITTLE CHILDREN PARTICULARLY IF THEY ARE PRETTY |
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| 182 | | eti0182 AND IT TAKES QUITE SUPER HUMAN CONTROL FOR A YOUNG MOTHER NOT TO SHOW OFF HER TREASURE |
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| 183 | | eti0183 BUT TO SAY INSTEAD PLEASE DO NOT PAY ANY ATTENTION TO HER |
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| 184 | | eti0184 SOME CHILDREN WHO ARE ESPECIALLY FREE FROM SELF CONSCIOUSNESS STAND STARDOM BETTER THAN OTHERS WHO ARE MORE READILY SPOILED |
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| 185 | | eti0185 BUT IN NINE CASES OUT OF TEN THE OLD FASHIONED METHOD THAT ASSIGNED CHILDREN TO INCONSPICUOUS PLACES IN THE BACKGROUND |
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| 186 | | eti0186 AND DECREED THEY MIGHT BE SEEN BUT NOT HEARD |
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| 187 | | eti0187 PRODUCED MEN AND WOMEN OF FAR GREATER CHARM THAN THE MODERN METHOD OF ENCOURAGING PUBLIC SELF EXPRESSION |
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| 188 | | eti0188 FROM INFANCY UPWARD CHIEF VIRTUE OBEDIENCE NO YOUNG HUMAN BEING ANY MORE THAN A YOUNG DOG |
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| 189 | | eti0189 HAS THE LEAST CLAIM TO ATTRACTIVENESS UNLESS IT IS TRAINED TO MANNERS AND OBEDIENCE |
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| 190 | | eti0190 THE CHILD THAT WHINES INTERRUPTS FUSSES FIDGETS AND DOES NOTHING THAT IT IS TOLD TO DO |
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| 191 | | eti0191 HAS NOT THE LEAST POWER OF ATTRACTION FOR ANY ONE EVEN THOUGH IT MAY HAVE THE FEATURES OF AN ANGEL |
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| 192 | | eti0192 AND BE DRESSED LIKE A PICTURE ANOTHER THAT MAY HAVE NO CLAIM TO BEAUTY WHATEVER |
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| 193 | | eti0193 BUT THAT IS SWEET AND NICELY BEHAVED EXERTS CHARM OVER EVERY ONE |
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| 194 | | eti0194 WHEN POSSIBLE A CHILD SHOULD BE TAKEN AWAY THE INSTANT IT BECOMES DISOBEDIENT |
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| 195 | | eti0195 IT SOON LEARNS THAT IT CAN NOT STAY WITH MOTHER UNLESS IT IS WELL BEHAVED |
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| 196 | | eti0196 THIS MEANS THAT IT LEARNS SELF CONTROL IN BABYHOOD NOT ONLY MUST CHILDREN OBEY |
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| 197 | | eti0197 BUT THEY MUST NEVER BE ALLOWED TO SHOW OFF OR BECOME PERT |
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| 198 | | eti0198 OR TO CONTRADICT OR TO ANSWER BACK AND AFTER HAVING BEEN TOLD NO |
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| 199 | | eti0199 THEY MUST NEVER BE ALLOWED BY PERSISTENT NAGGING TO WIN YES A CHILD THAT LOSES ITS TEMPER |
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| 200 | | eti0200 THAT TEASES THAT IS PETULANT AND DISOBEDIENT AND A NUISANCE TO EVERYBODY |
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| 201 | | eti0201 IS MERELY A VICTIM POOR LITTLE THING OF PARENTS WHO HAVE BEEN TOO INCOMPETENT OR NEGLIGENT TO TRAIN IT TO OBEDIENCE |
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| 202 | | eti0202 MOREOVER THAT SAME CHILD WHEN GROWN WILL BE THE FIRST TO RESENT AND BLAME THE MOTHER'S MISTAKEN SPOILING |
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| 203 | | eti0203 AND LACK OF GOOD SENSE FAIR PLAY NOTHING APPEALS TO CHILDREN MORE THAN JUSTICE |
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| 204 | | eti0204 AND THEY SHOULD BE TAUGHT IN THE NURSERY TO PLAY FAIR IN GAMES |
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| 205 | | eti0205 TO RESPECT EACH OTHER'S PROPERTY AND RIGHTS TO GIVE CREDIT TO OTHERS |
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| 206 | | eti0206 AND NOT TO TAKE TOO MUCH CREDIT TO THEMSELVES |
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| 207 | | eti0207 EVERY CHILD MUST BE TAUGHT NEVER TO DRAW ATTENTION TO THE MEAGRE POSSESSIONS OF ANOTHER CHILD |
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| 208 | | eti0208 WHOSE PARENTS ARE NOT AS WELL OFF AS HER OWN A PURSE PROUD OVERBEARING CHILD WHO SAYS TO A PLAYMATE |
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| 209 | | eti0209 MY CLOTHES WERE ALL MADE IN PARIS AND MY DOLL IS EVER SO MUCH HANDSOMER THAN YOURS |
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| 210 | | eti0210 OR IS THAT REAL LACE ON YOUR COLLAR IS NOT IMPRESSING HER YOUNG FRIEND WITH HER GRANDEUR AND DISCRIMINATION |
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| 211 | | eti0211 BUT WITH HER DISAGREEABLENESS AND RUDENESS A BOY WHO BRAGS ABOUT WHAT HE HAS |
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| 212 | | eti0212 AND BOASTS OF WHAT HE CAN DO |
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| 213 | | eti0213 IS ONLY LESS OBJECTIONABLE BECAUSE OTHER BOYS ARE SURE TO TAKE IT OUT OF HIM PROMPTLY AND THOROUGHLY |
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| 214 | | eti0214 NOR SHOULD A BRIGHT OBSERVING CHILD BE ENCOURAGED TO PICK OUT OTHER PEOPLE'S FAILINGS |
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| 215 | | eti0215 OR TO TELL HER MOTHER HOW INFERIOR OTHER CHILDREN ARE COMPARED WITH HERSELF |
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| 216 | | eti0216 IF SHE WINS A RACE OR A MEDAL OR IS PRAISED SHE NATURALLY TELLS HER MOTHER |
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| 217 | | eti0217 AND HER MOTHER NATURALLY REJOICES WITH HER AND IT IS PROPER THAT SHE SHOULD |
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| 218 | | eti0218 BUT A WISE MOTHER DIRECTS HER CHILD'S MENTAL ATTITUDE TO APPRECIATE THE FACT THAT ARROGANCE |
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| 219 | | eti0219 SELFISHNESS AND CONCEIT CAN WIN NO PLACE WORTH HAVING IN THE WORLD CHILDREN AT AFTERNOON TEA |
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| 220 | | eti0220 A CUSTOM IN MANY FASHIONABLE HOUSES IS TO ALLOW CHILDREN AS SOON AS THEY ARE OLD ENOUGH |
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| 221 | | eti0221 TO COME INTO THE DRAWING ROOM OR LIBRARY AT TEA TIME |
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| 222 | | eti0222 AS NOTHING GIVES THEM A BETTER OPPORTUNITY TO LEARN HOW TO BEHAVE IN COMPANY |
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| 223 | | eti0223 LITTLE BOYS ARE ALWAYS TAUGHT TO BOW TO VISITORS LITTLE GIRLS TO CURTSY |
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| 224 | | eti0224 SMALL BOYS ARE TAUGHT TO PLACE THE INDIVIDUAL TABLES HAND PLATES AND TEA |
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| 225 | | eti0225 AND PASS SANDWICHES AND CAKES IF THERE ARE NO BOYS GIRLS PERFORM THIS OFFICE |
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| 226 | | eti0226 VERY OFTEN THEY BOTH DO WHEN EVERYBODY HAS BEEN HELPED THE CHILDREN ARE PERHAPS ALLOWED A PIECE OF CAKE |
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| 227 | | eti0227 WHICH THEY PUT ON A TEA PLATE AND SIT DOWN AND EAT NICELY |
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| 228 | | eti0228 BUT AS THE TEA HOUR IS VERY NEAR THEIR SUPPER TIME THEY ARE OFTEN ALLOWED NOTHING |
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| 229 | | eti0229 AND AFTER MAKING THEMSELVES USEFUL GO OUT OF THE ROOM AGAIN |
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| 230 | | eti0230 IF MANY PEOPLE ARE PRESENT AND THE CHILDREN ARE NOT SPOKEN TO |
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| 231 | | eti0231 THEY LEAVE THE ROOM UNOBTRUSIVELY AND QUIETLY IF ONLY ONE OR TWO ARE PRESENT |
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| 232 | | eti0232 ESPECIALLY THOSE WHOM THE CHILDREN KNOW WELL THEY SHAKE HANDS AND SAY GOOD BY |
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| 233 | | eti0233 AND WALK NOT RUN OUT OF THE ROOM |
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| 234 | | eti0234 THIS IS ONE OF THE WAYS IN WHICH WELL BRED PEOPLE BECOME USED FROM CHILDHOOD TO INSTINCTIVE GOOD MANNERS |
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| 235 | | eti0235 UNLESS THEY ARE SPOKEN TO THEY WOULD NOT THINK OF SPEAKING OR MAKING THEMSELVES NOTICED IN ANY WAY VERY |
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| 236 | | eti0236 LITTLE CHILDREN WHO HAVE NOT REACHED THE AGE OF DISCRETION WHICH MAY BE PLACED AT ABOUT FIVE |
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| 237 | | eti0237 POSSIBLY NOT UNTIL SIX USUALLY GO IN THE DRAWING ROOM AT TEA TIME |
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| 238 | | eti0238 ONLY WHEN NEAR RELATIVES OR INTIMATE FRIENDS OF THE FAMILY ARE THERE |
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| 239 | | eti0239 NEEDLESS TO SAY THAT THEY ARE ALWAYS WASHED AND DRESSED SOME CHILDREN WEAR SPECIAL AFTERNOON CLOTHES |
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| 240 | | eti0240 BUT USUALLY THE CLEAN CLOTHES PUT ON AT TEA TIME GO ON AGAIN THE NEXT MORNING |
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| 241 | | eti0241 EXCEPT THE THIN SOCKS AND HOUSE SLIPPERS WHICH ARE RESERVED FOR THE EVENING HOUR OF THEIR DAY |
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| 242 | | eti0242 CHILDREN'S PARTIES A SMALL GIRL OR BOY GIVING A PARTY SHOULD RECEIVE WITH HER MOTHER AT THE DOOR |
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| 243 | | eti0243 AND GREET ALL HER FRIENDS AS THEY COME IN IF IT IS HER BIRTHDAY AND OTHER CHILDREN BRING HER GIFTS |
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| 244 | | eti0244 SHE MUST SAY THANK YOU POLITELY ON NO ACCOUNT MUST SHE BE ALLOWED TO TELL A CHILD |
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| 245 | | eti0245 I HATE DOLLS IF A FRIEND HAS BROUGHT HER ONE |
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| 246 | | eti0246 SHE MUST LEARN AT AN EARLY AGE THAT AS HOSTESS SHE MUST THINK OF HER GUESTS RATHER THAN HERSELF |
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| 247 | | eti0247 AND NOT WANT THE BEST TOYS IN THE GRAB BAG OR SCREAM BECAUSE ANOTHER CHILD GETS THE PRIZE THAT IS OFFERED IN A CONTEST |
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| 248 | | eti0248 IF BEATEN IN A GAME A LITTLE GIRL NO LESS THAN HER BROTHERS |
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| 249 | | eti0249 MUST NEVER CRY OR COMPLAIN THAT THE CONTEST IS NOT FAIR WHEN SHE LOSES |
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| 250 | | eti0250 SHE MUST TRY TO HELP HER GUESTS HAVE A GOOD TIME |
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| 251 | | eti0251 AND NOT INSIST ON PLAYING THE GAME SHE LIKES INSTEAD OF THOSE WHICH THE OTHER CHILDREN SUGGEST |
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| 252 | | eti0252 WHEN SHE HERSELF GOES TO A PARTY SHE MUST SAY HOW DO YOU DO |
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| 253 | | eti0253 WHEN SHE ENTERS THE ROOM AND CURTSY TO THE LADY WHO RECEIVES A BOY MAKES A BOW |
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| 254 | | eti0254 THEY SHOULD HAVE EQUALLY GOOD MANNERS AS WHEN AT HOME |
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| 255 | | eti0255 AND NOT TRY TO GRAB MORE THAN THEIR SHARE OF FAVORS OR TOYS |
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| 256 | | eti0256 WHEN IT IS TIME TO GO HOME THEY MUST SAY GOOD BY I HAD A VERY GOOD TIME |
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| 257 | | eti0257 OR GOOD BY THANK YOU EVER SO MUCH THE CHILD'S REPLY IF THE HOSTESS SAYS |
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| 258 | | eti0258 GOOD BY GIVE MY LOVE TO YOUR MOTHER THE CHILD ANSWERS YES MRS SMITH |
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| 259 | | eti0259 IN ALL MONOSYLLABIC REPLIES A CHILD MUST NOT SAY YES OR NO OR WHAT |
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| 260 | | eti0260 A BOY IN ANSWERING A GENTLEMAN STILL USES THE OLD FASHIONED YES SIR NO SIR |
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| 261 | | eti0261 I THINK SO SIR BUT MA'AM HAS GONE OUT OF STYLE BOTH BOYS AND GIRLS MUST THEREFORE ANSWER |
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| 262 | | eti0262 NO MRS SMITH YES MISS JONES A GIRL SAYS YES MR SMITH RATHER THAN SIR |
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| 263 | | eti0263 ALL CHILDREN SHOULD SAY WHAT DID YOU SAY MOTHER NO FATHER THANK YOU AUNT KATE |
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| 264 | | eti0264 YES UNCLE FRED ETC THEY NEED NOT INSERT A NAME IN A LONG SENTENCE NOR WITH PLEASE |
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| 265 | | eti0265 OR THANK YOU YES PLEASE OR NO THANK YOU IS QUITE SUFFICIENT OR IN ANSWERING |
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| 266 | | eti0266 I JUST SAW MARY DOWN IN THE GARDEN IT IS NOT NECESSARY TO ADD MRS SMITH AT THE END |
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| 267 | | eti0267 ETIQUETTE FOR GROWN CHILDREN ETIQUETTE FOR GROWN CHILDREN IS PRECISELY THE SAME AS FOR GROWN PERSONS |
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| 268 | | eti0268 EXCEPTING THAT IN MANY WAYS THE MANNERS EXACTED OF YOUNG PEOPLE SHOULD BE MORE ALERT AND PUNCTILIOUS |
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| 269 | | eti0269 YOUNG GIRLS AND BOYS OF COURSE SHOULD HAVE THE MANNERS OF A GENTLEMAN RATHER THAN THOSE OF A LADY |
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| 270 | | eti0270 IN THAT A GENTLEMAN ALWAYS RISES RELINQUISHES THE BEST SEAT AND WALKS LAST INTO A ROOM |
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| 271 | | eti0271 WHEREAS THESE COURTESIES ARE SHOWN TO AND NOT OBSERVED BY LADIES EXCEPT TO OTHER LADIES OLDER THAN THEMSELVES |
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| 272 | | eti0272 IN GIVING PARTIES YOUNG GIRLS SEND OUT THEIR INVITATIONS AS THEIR MOTHERS DO |
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| 273 | | eti0273 AND THEIR DEPORTMENT IS THE SAME AS THAT OF THEIR DEBUTANTE SISTER |
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| 274 | | eti0274 BOYS BEHAVE AS THEIR FATHERS DO AND ARE EQUALLY PUNCTILIOUS IN FOLLOWING THE CODE OF HONOR OF ALL GENTLEMEN |
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| 275 | | eti0275 THE ONLY DETAILS THEREFORE NOT LIKELY TO BE DESCRIBED IN OTHER CHAPTERS OF THIS BOOK |
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| 276 | | eti0276 ARE A FEW ADMONITIONS ON TABLE MANNERS THAT ARE SOMEWHAT ABOVE KINDERGARTEN GRADE |
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| 277 | | eti0277 THE GRADUATING TESTS IN TABLE MANNERS A YOUNG PERSON MAY BE SUPPOSED TO HAVE GRADUATED FROM THE SCHOOL OF TABLE ETIQUETTE |
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| 278 | | eti0278 WHEN SHE OR HE |
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| 279 | | eti0279 WOULD BE ABLE TO SIT AT A FORMAL LUNCH OR DINNER TABLE AND FIND NO DIFFICULTY IN EATING PROPERLY ANY OF THE COMESTIBLES WHICH ARE SUPPOSED TO BE HURDLES |
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| 280 | | eti0280 TO THE INEXPERT CORN ON THE COB |
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| 281 | | eti0281 CORN ON THE COB COULD BE ELIMINATED SO FAR AS EVER HAVING TO EAT IT IN FORMAL COMPANY IS CONCERNED |
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| 282 | | eti0282 SINCE IT IS NEVER SERVED AT A LUNCHEON OR A DINNER |
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| 283 | | eti0283 BUT IF YOU INSIST ON EATING IT AT HOME OR IN A RESTAURANT |
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| 284 | | eti0284 TO ATTACK IT WITH AS LITTLE FEROCITY AS POSSIBLE IS PERHAPS THE ONLY DIRECTION TO BE GIVEN |
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| 285 | | eti0285 SINCE AT BEST IT IS AN UNGRACEFUL PERFORMANCE AND TO EAT IT GREEDILY A HORRIBLE SIGHT |
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| 286 | | eti0286 ASPARAGUS ALTHOUGH ASPARAGUS MAY BE TAKEN IN THE FINGERS DON'T TAKE A LONG DROOPING STALK |
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| 287 | | eti0287 HOLD IT UP IN THE AIR AND CATCH THE END OF IT IN YOUR MOUTH |
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| 288 | | eti0288 LIKE A FISH WHEN THE STALKS ARE THIN IT IS BEST TO CUT THEM IN HALF WITH THE FORK |
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| 289 | | eti0289 EATING THE TIPS LIKE ALL FORK FOOD THE ENDS MAY THEN BE TAKEN IN THE FINGERS AND EATEN WITHOUT A DROPPING FOUNTAIN EFFECT |
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| 290 | | eti0290 DON'T SQUEEZE THE STALKS OR HOLD YOUR HAND BELOW THE END AND LET THE JUICE RUN DOWN YOUR ARM |
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| 291 | | eti0291 ARTICHOKES ARTICHOKES ARE ALWAYS EATEN WITH THE FINGERS |
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| 292 | | eti0292 A LEAF AT A TIME IS PULLED OFF AND THE EDIBLE END DIPPED IN THE SAUCE |
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| 293 | | eti0293 AND THEN BITTEN OFF BREAD AND BUTTER BREAD SHOULD ALWAYS BE BROKEN INTO SMALL PIECES WITH THE FINGERS BEFORE BEING EATEN |
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| 294 | | eti0294 IF IT IS TO BE BUTTERED AT LUNCH BREAKFAST OR SUPPER BUT NOT AT DINNER |
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| 295 | | eti0295 A PIECE IS HELD ON THE EDGE OF THE BREAD AND BUTTER PLATE |
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| 296 | | eti0296 OR THE PLACE PLATE AND ENOUGH BUTTER SPREAD ON IT FOR A MOUTHFUL OR TWO AT A TIME |
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| 297 | | eti0297 WITH A SMALL SILVER BUTTER KNIFE BREAD MUST NEVER BE HELD FLAT ON THE PALM OF THE HAND AND BUTTERED IN THE AIR |
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| 298 | | eti0298 IF THE REGULAR STEEL KNIFE IS USED CARE MUST BE TAKEN NOT TO SMEAR FOOD FROM THE KNIFE'S SIDE ON THE BUTTER |
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| 299 | | eti0299 ANY FOOD THAT IS SMEARED ABOUT IS LOATHSOME PEOPLE WHO HAVE BEAUTIFUL TABLE MANNERS ALWAYS KEEP THEIR PLACES AT TABLE NEAT |
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| 300 | | eti0300 PEOPLE WITH DISGUSTING MANNERS GET EVERYTHING IN A HORRIBLE MESS THE MANAGEMENT OF BONES AND PITS |
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| 301 | | eti0301 TERRAPIN BONES FISH BONES AND GRAPE SEED MUST BE EATEN QUITE BARE AND CLEAN IN THE MOUTH |
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| 302 | | eti0302 AND REMOVED ONE AT A TIME BETWEEN FINGER AND THUMB |
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| 303 | | eti0303 ALL SPITTING OUT OF BONES AND PITS INTO THE PLATE IS DISGUSTING IF FOOD IS TOO HOT |
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| 304 | | eti0304 QUICKLY TAKE A SWALLOW OF WATER ON NO ACCOUNT SPIT IT OUT |
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| 305 | | eti0305 IF FOOD HAS BEEN TAKEN INTO YOUR MOUTH NO MATTER HOW YOU HATE IT |
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| 306 | | eti0306 YOU HAVE GOT TO SWALLOW IT IT IS UNFORGIVABLE TO TAKE ANYTHING OUT OF YOUR MOUTH THAT HAS BEEN PUT IN IT |
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| 307 | | eti0307 EXCEPT DRY BONES AND STONES TO SPIT ANYTHING WHATEVER INTO THE CORNER OF YOUR NAPKIN |
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| 308 | | eti0308 IS TOO NAUSEATING TO COMMENT ON |
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| 309 | | eti0309 IT IS HORRID TO SEE ANY ONE SPIT SKINS OR PITS ON A FORK OR INTO THE PLATE |
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| 310 | | eti0310 THE ONLY WAY TO TAKE ANYTHING OUT OF YOUR MOUTH IS BETWEEN FIRST FINGER AND THUMB |
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| 311 | | eti0311 DRY GRAPE SEEDS OR CHERRY PITS CAN BE DROPPED FROM THE LIPS INTO THE CUPPED HAND |
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| 312 | | eti0312 PEACHES OR OTHER VERY JUICY FRUITS ARE PEELED AND THEN EATEN WITH KNIFE AND FORK |
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| 313 | | eti0313 BUT DRY FRUITS SUCH AS APPLES MAY BE CUT AND THEN EATEN IN THE FINGERS |
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| 314 | | eti0314 NEVER WIPE HANDS THAT HAVE FRUIT JUICE ON THEM ON A NAPKIN WITHOUT FIRST USING A FINGER BOWL |
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| 315 | | eti0315 BECAUSE FRUIT JUICES MAKE INDELIBLE STAINS BIRDS BIRDS ARE NOT EATEN WITH THE FINGERS IN COMPANY |
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| 316 | | eti0316 YOU CUT OFF AS MUCH OF THE MEAT AS YOU CAN AND LEAVE THE REST ON YOUR PLATE |
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| 317 | | eti0317 FORKS OR FINGERS ALL JUICY OR GOOEY FRUITS OR CAKES ARE BEST EATEN WITH A FORK |
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| 318 | | eti0318 BUT IN MOST CASES IT IS A MATTER OF DEXTERITY |
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| 319 | | eti0319 IF YOU ARE ABLE TO EAT A PEACH IN YOUR FINGERS AND NOT SMEAR YOUR FACE |
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| 320 | | eti0320 LET JUICE RUN DOWN OR MAKE A SUCKING NOISE YOU ARE THE ONE IN A THOUSAND WHO MAY |
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| 321 | | eti0321 AND WITH UTMOST PROPRIETY CONTINUE THE FEAT |
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| 322 | | eti0322 IF YOU CAN EAT A NAPOLEON OR A CREAM PUFF AND NOT LET THE CREAM OOZE OUT ON THE FAR SIDE |
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| 323 | | eti0323 YOU NEED NOT USE A FORK BUT IF YOU CAN NOT EAT SOMETHING |
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| 324 | | eti0324 NO MATTER WHAT IT IS WITHOUT GETTING IT ALL OVER YOUR FINGERS YOU MUST USE A FORK |
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| 325 | | eti0325 AND IF NECESSARY A KNIFE ALSO ALL RULES OF TABLE MANNERS ARE MADE TO AVOID UGLINESS |
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| 326 | | eti0326 TO LET ANY ONE SEE WHAT YOU HAVE IN YOUR MOUTH IS REPULSIVE |
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| 327 | | eti0327 TO MAKE A NOISE IS TO SUGGEST AN ANIMAL TO MAKE A MESS IS DISGUSTING |
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| 328 | | eti0328 ON THE OTHER HAND THERE ARE A NUMBER OF TRIFLING DECREES OF ETIQUETTE |
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| 329 | | eti0329 THAT ARE MERELY FINICAL UNREASONABLE AND SILLY |
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| 330 | | eti0330 WHY ONE SHOULD NOT CUT ONE'S SALAD IN SMALL PIECES IF ONE WANTS TO MAKES LITTLE SENSE |
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| 331 | | eti0331 UNLESS ONE WANTS TO CUT UP A WHOLE PLATEFUL AND MAKE THE PLATE MESSY |
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| 332 | | eti0332 A STEEL KNIFE MUST NOT BE USED FOR SALAD OR FRUIT BECAUSE IT TURNS BLACK |
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| 333 | | eti0333 TO CONDEMN THE AMERICAN CUSTOM OF EATING A SOFT BOILED EGG IN A GLASS OR CUP |
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| 334 | | eti0334 BECAUSE IT HAPPENS TO BE THE ENGLISH FASHION TO SCOOP IT THROUGH THE RAGGED EDGE OF THE SHELL |
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| 335 | | eti0335 IS ABOUT AS REASONABLE AS THOUGH WE WERE TO PROCLAIM ENGLISH MANNERS BAD BECAUSE THEY TAG A BREAKFAST DISH |
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| 336 | | eti0336 CALLED A SAVORY OF FISH ROE OR SOMETHING EQUALLY INAPPROPRIATE AFTER THE DESSERT AT DINNER |
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| 337 | | eti0337 MANY OTHER ARBITRARY RULES FOR EATING FOOD WITH FORK SPOON OR FINGERS |
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| 338 | | eti0338 ARE ALSO STUMBLING BLOCKS RATHER THAN AIDS TO SMOOTHNESS AS SAID ABOVE |
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| 339 | | eti0339 ONE EATS WITH A FORK OR SPOON FINGER FOODS THAT ARE MESSY AND STICKY |
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| 340 | | eti0340 ONE EATS WITH THE FINGER THOSE WHICH ARE DRY |
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| 341 | | eti0341 IT IS TRUE THAT ONE SHOULD NOT EAT FRENCH FRIED POTATOES OR SARATOGA CHIPS IN FINGERS |
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| 342 | | eti0342 BUT THAT IS BECAUSE THEY BELONG TO THE MEAT COURSE SEPARATE VEGETABLE SAUCERS ARE NEVER PUT ON A FASHIONABLE TABLE |
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| 343 | | eti0343 NEITHER IS BUTTER ALLOWED AT DINNER THEREFORE BOTH MUST BE AVOIDED IN COMPANY BECAUSE COMPANY IS FORMAL |
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| 344 | | eti0344 AND ETIQUETTE IS FIRST AID ALWAYS TO FORMALITY |
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| 345 | | eti0345 BUT IF A MAN IN HIS OWN HOUSE LIKES BUTTER WITH HIS DINNER OR A SAUCER FOR HIS TOMATOES |
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| 346 | | eti0346 HE IS BREAKING THE RULE OF FASHION TO HAVE THEM BUT HE IS SCARCELY COMMITTING AN OFFENSE |
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| 347 | | eti0347 IN THE SAME WAY IF HE LIKES TO EAT A CHICKEN WING OR A SQUAB LEG IN HIS FINGERS HE CAN ASK FOR A FINGER BOWL |
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| 348 | | eti0348 THE REAL OBJECTION TO EATING WITH THE FINGERS IS GETTING THEM GREASY OR STICKY |
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| 349 | | eti0349 AND TO SUCK THEM OR SMEAR ONE'S NAPKIN IS EQUALLY UNSIGHTLY ON THE SUBJECT OF ELBOWS |
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| 350 | | eti0350 ALTHOUGH ELBOWS ON THE TABLE ARE SEEN CONSTANTLY IN HIGHEST FASHIONABLE CIRCLES A |
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| 351 | | eti0351 WHOLE TABLE'S LENGTH OF ELBOWS PLANTED LIKE CLOTHES LINE POLES AND HANDS WAVING GLASSES OR FORKS ABOUT IN BETWEEN |
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| 352 | | eti0352 IS NEITHER AN ATTRACTIVE NOR FORTUNATELY AN ACCURATE PICTURE OF A FASHIONABLE DINNER TABLE |
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| 353 | | eti0353 AS A MATTER OF FACT THE TOLERATED ELBOW ON TABLE IS USED ONLY ON OCCASION AND FOR A REASON |
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| 354 | | eti0354 AND SHOULD NEITHER BE PERMITTED TO CHILDREN NOR PRACTISED IN THEIR PRESENCE |
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| 355 | | eti0355 ELBOWS ARE UNIVERSALLY SEEN ON TABLES IN RESTAURANTS |
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| 356 | | eti0356 ESPECIALLY WHEN PEOPLE ARE LUNCHING OR DINING AT A SMALL TABLE OF TWO OR FOUR |
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| 357 | | eti0357 AND IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO MAKE ONESELF HEARD ABOVE THE MUSIC BY ONE'S TABLE COMPANIONS |
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| 358 | | eti0358 AND AT THE SAME TIME NOT BE HEARD AT OTHER TABLES NEARBY WITHOUT LEANING FAR FORWARD |
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| 359 | | eti0359 AND IN LEANING FORWARD A WOMAN'S FIGURE MAKES A MORE GRACEFUL OUTLINE SUPPORTED ON HER ELBOWS |
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| 360 | | eti0360 THAN DOUBLED FORWARD OVER HER HANDS IN HER LAP AS THOUGH IN PAIN |
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| 361 | | eti0361 AT HOME WHEN THERE IS NO REASON FOR LEANING ACROSS THE TABLE |
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| 362 | | eti0362 THERE IS NO REASON FOR ELBOWS AND AT A DINNER OF CEREMONY |
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| 363 | | eti0363 ELBOWS ON THE TABLE ARE RARELY SEEN EXCEPT AT THE ENDS OF THE TABLE |
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| 364 | | eti0364 WHERE AGAIN ONE HAS TO LEAN FORWARD IN ORDER TO TALK TO A COMPANION AT A DISTANCE ACROSS THE TABLE CORNER |
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| 365 | | eti0365 ELBOWS ARE NEVER PUT ON THE TABLE WHILE ONE IS EATING |
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| 366 | | eti0366 TO SIT WITH THE LEFT ELBOW PROPPED ON THE TABLE WHILE EATING WITH THE RIGHT HAND |
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| 367 | | eti0367 UNLESS ONE IS ALONE AND ILL OR TO PROP THE RIGHT ONE ON THE TABLE WHILE LIFTING THE FORK OR GLASS TO THE MOUTH |
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| 368 | | eti0368 MUST BE AVOIDED END OF CHAPTER THIRTY FIVE |
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| | 1 | aud0001 THOSE EVENING BELLS BY THOMAS MOORE READ FOR MOJOMOVE FOUR ONE ONE DOT COM BY ROBERT SCOTT |
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| | 2 | aud0002 AS PART OF THE VOXFORGE DOT ORG SHORTS WEEKLY MONOLOGUE COLLECTION |
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| | 3 | aud0003 THOSE EVENING BELLS THOSE EVENING BELLS THOSE EVENING BELLS HOW MANY A TALE THEIR MUSIC TELLS |
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| | 4 | aud0004 OF YOUTH AND HOME AND THAT SWEET TIME WHEN LAST I HEARD THEIR SOOTHING CHIME |
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| | 5 | aud0005 THOSE JOYOUS HOURS ARE PASSED AWAY AND MANY A HEART THAT THEN WAS GAY |
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| | 6 | aud0006 WITHIN THE TOMB NOW DARKLY DWELLS AND HEARS NO MORE THOSE EVENING BELLS |
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| | 7 | aud0007 AND SO T WILL BE WHEN I AM GONE THAT TUNEFUL PEAL WILL STILL RING ON |
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| | 8 | aud0008 WHILE OTHER BARDS SHALL WALK THESE DELLS AND SING YOUR PRAISE SWEET EVENING BELLS |
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| | 9 | aud0009 THIS RECORDING IS IN THE PUBLIC DOMAIN |
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